Amy Morse, a professor of psychology at Chapman University in the United States, has mentioned that jealousy in relationships is a sign of insecurity. Many people tend to confuse jealousy with love and mistake it for love. In fact, excessive jealousy will not only become the fuse of conflict between the two, but also may become a desire to control, or even violence.
Vinegar is a common emotion in intimate relationships, not a completely negative state of mind, lack of ability, insecurity, possessiveness and so on are the causes of jealousy and jealousy. In fact, reasonable jealous can be the driving force for individuals to move forward, so it is particularly important to distinguish the degree of jealous and adjust in time.
There are two forms of jealousy in intimacy: one reactive and the other skeptical. Reactive refers to when feeling that your intimate relationship is under external threat, for example, when seeing a loved one and a stranger talking and laughing or praising the other opposite sex in their own face, it can produce uneasiness; the skepticism is lack of reason, usually because the other person has no actual behavior, but produces jealousy and jealousy caused by unprovoked speculation about it. For example, when a lover comes home late for work, he guesses that the other party has gone on a date.
Jealousy is unpleasant, irritating, and accompanied by hurt, anger, and fear. Under extreme jealousy, people tend to do things that aren't conducive to intimacy, such as checking cell phones, cross-checking things, restricting personal freedom in various ways, and even violence.
When you find that you have an extreme tendency to eat vinegar, be sure to adjust in time. The first is to shift the focus from the other side to their own body, to improve themselves, to seek their own inner satisfaction, to avoid the lack of ability caused by the bad psychology. Second, try to adjust the mentality, break the idea of selfish and exclusive, do not regard the lover as their own accessory. At the same time, we should express our worries and fears to each other in a timely and direct manner, and jointly discuss and solve the problems arising from jealousy.
When we notice that the other party has some extremely jealous speech and behavior signals, we should also be vigilant, do not choose to escape or do other behavior that may stimulate the other party jealous. Communicate with each other in a timely manner, try to accept and understand each other's emotions, understand the point of his outburst, and examine whether he has actually crossed the line. If the other person often uses vinegar as an excuse to try to control your behavior and prohibit you from interacting with the opposite sex, consider calmly whether the relationship can bring you a sense of security and happiness.